• John M. Smith, LCSW

Thoughts on Resources

“Life is an adventure in forgiveness.” —Norman Cousins

There is wealth of resources available to all of us regarding the process of forgiveness. There is no one right way to proceed. Trust that your inner guidance will direct you to the materials and activities that will be most helpful to you.

Most books and articles provide you with the current research on the healing potential of forgiveness. Many also provide you with self-help worksheets and a model to follow as you proceed with the uncovering and healing process. Some books and articles suggest by their title that they offer a model that makes the process of forgiveness ‘easy’. For most people it is not easy. But people do need to sell books with catchy titles. These books still provide valuable information and are certainly worth a read if you find yourself drawn to them.

As you proceed, I suggest you find people and materials that will support you on your journey. There are counselors, coaches, spiritual advisors and a host of helping professionals that are available to guide you. Surround yourself with as much life-affirming energy as possible, including mindfulness and meditation practices, guided meditation and relaxation tapes available for purchase or on youtube, and other self-care activities.

If I can be of assistance, do not hesitate to contact me. I am available for individual consultation, group facilitation, and forgiveness workshops. If you decide I cannot be of help to you, find a professional that can more appropriately provide you what you are looking for at this time.

Finally, take time away from the forgiveness work when needed to play, smile, laugh, love and relax. Our energy can be unnecessarily drained when we proceed with intense serious intent without balancing activities. Remember, we forgive in order to release ourselves from suffering, and to bring ourselves into the potential of the present moment. We are setting a course for more love, peace and joy in our lives. As Mother Theresa reminds us, “If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.”